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I’m 55 and prefer to rent instead of owning a home — but my friends and family say this makes me a financial failure. Are they wrong?

For 75% of Americans homeownership is part of the American Dream, while close to two in three respondents count homeownership as one of their life goals, according to Realtor.com. But those numbers are a far cry from 100%.

The reality is that not everyone wants to be a homeowner. But because getting the keys to your own place is part of the expected life path, this can create problems for those who want to buck the trend.

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Take Caroline, for example. Let’s say that she’s 55 and wants to rent instead of own. She likes the flexibility of being able to move when she wants, and she really loves not having to worry about home maintenance and repairs. The problem is that her family and friends think she’s a huge failure, and they’re pressuring her to purchase a home as soon as possible.

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Should Caroline give in and call a real estate agent? Or are her loved ones wrong and should she stay the course?

Renting may be the right move in some situations

Caroline’s decision to rent isn’t unreasonable, and it may even be the best choice in some situations.

“Renting or owning a home is truly a personal decision. It depends on your finances and budget,” Domenick D’Andrea, a financial advisor and co-founder of DanDarah Wealth Management, told Moneywise.

“I would never look at not owning a home as you being perceived as a financial failure,” D’Andrea said. “To me, it’s better to understand your budget and what you can truly afford before either purchasing or renting.”

If saving up a down payment or covering the monthly cost would make you house-poor or force you to devote too much of your income to housing, then owning isn’t the best choice. After all, renting is cheaper than buying in virtually every metro area in the United States, according to Realtor.com. If Caroline lives in one of these areas, renting and investing the amount she saves on housing costs makes good sense.

John Rafferty, partner and investment advisor representative at Solomon Financial, told Moneywise that renting could also save Caroline money in other ways. “If you don’t own a home, you avoid having to pay for maintenance, taxes, and homeowner’s insurance,” he said.

He also pointed out that it’s important to consider life plans because if you expect your living situation to change in the next few years, committing to owning likely makes no sense. “Buying a home is not a short-term decision,” he said. “It may take five years to net back the price that you paid for your home, plus the one-time acquisition costs that you will pay at the closing. These fees can run from 3% to 5% of the purchase price.”

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Renting isn’t throwing away money

While there are plenty of great reasons to rent, Caroline may have a hard time changing her family’s perception because of the strong ownership culture in the U.S.

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“Part of the ‘American Dream’ is owning a home,” Rafferty said.

Mary Ware, a senior wealth advisor and managing partner at Carnegie Private Wealth, agreed, telling Moneywise, “Owning a home can be a great way to build wealth, but homeownership isn’t a measure of financial success or failure.”

Ware said she often has this conversation with clients, especially as they near retirement and still face pro-ownership propaganda, such as the common idea that renting is throwing away money.

“There’s still a stigma around renting,” Ware said. “But you have to pay to live somewhere, whether you rent or own. Homeownership comes with expenses beyond the mortgage, including property taxes, insurance, maintenance, and unexpected repairs. Renting can free you from many of those costs and responsibilities, giving you more flexibility and independence.”

The key for Caroline is that if she doesn’t buy a house, she needs to do something else. Homeowners have a much higher net worth than renters because their mortgage payments are essentially forced savings, and they build equity with each one. Eventually, they have an asset they can sell to help fund retirement or live in to lower their costs.

If Caroline won’t do that, she needs to be disciplined about investing the difference. Her retirement nest egg needs to be bigger to cover housing costs as she ages, and the best way to make that happen is to treat investing as a must-pay bill. If she does, she should have more than enough to retire, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that choice.

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Christy Bieber Contributing Writer

Christy Bieber is a US based personal finance and legal writer who has 15 years of experience. She has written for many publications including Forbes, Kilplinger, CNN, WSJ, Credit Karma, Insurify and more.

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