Newark woman says her husband secretly took $100K and lost it all in an ‘online bank’ investment scam — ‘The Ramsay Show’ gave her tough love

The wife was surprisingly calm and told the hosts she was trying to give her husband a lot of grace, to which Ramsay replied: "No! He ought to be on his knees begging for forgiveness."

"Not only did he lie, but he was stupid with the money, and he's still walking around like this is okay," Ramsay grilled.

What happens next should not be up to her husband, Ramsay insisted.

Is deception akin to an affair?

Ramsay encouraged the woman to take ownership from here, starting with demanding marriage counseling immediately. Ramsay outlined two big problems: being out $100,000 and the lies.

All agreed that the broken trust was the more costly issue. He went behind her back, and it backfired big time. She asked the money expert how to rebuild from that, meaning she wasn't planning to leave the marriage.

Ramsay reminded her that "behavior is a language," and that it had already been a month since he told her. The money expert shared that he used to do a lot of real estate deals that his wife never knew about. He screwed up one Christmas and, ever since then, he doesn't make any major decisions without his wife involved.

"We don't make decisions unless we make them together," he said. "That's a new system that went in place after Dave was stupid."

Ramsay shared that financial secrecy touches on the same nerve that having an affair does.

"It's the same level of betrayal," he said.

Financial infidelity — which involves hiding, misrepresenting or avoiding debt or spending from a spouse — is more common than you might think.

With financial disagreements being the leading cause of divorce, this needs to be treated seriously. (2)

Couples also need to smarten up, with scammers getting savvier in the age of AI. According to Pew Research Center, 73% of U.S. adults have experienced some kind of online scam or attack, with 21% reporting actual financial losses. (3)

How to protect your relationship from financial ruin

While you might think this could never happen to you, it's important to put systems and standards in place to ensure it never does.

Ramsay's advice is applicable for every couple. Set rules that work for you as a couple, and always uphold that agreement. For example, always make big financial decisions together — whatever "big" means for you, as that's subjective.