'State law says he pays child support': This divorced Illinois mom of 2 says she's struggling — but only works 6-8 hours/week, doesn't want help from her ex-husband. Dave Ramsey responds

“A significant majority of lone parent families headed by women [divorced] makes re-starting rewarding work post break up challenging for many, especially for those who have curbed their career for family caring,” according to another study published by the U.K.-based Chartered Institute of Insurers (CII).

To be fair, Kami’s call with Ramsey was posted on YouTube in early October, just months after her divorce was finalized in July. Aside from taking time to adjust, Kami also needs to rethink what it means to be a good mother, as Ramsey stressed.

Redefining ‘good mom’

Ramsey noted that Kami is struggling to accept her new role as a single mom who is financially responsible for her children. “You have defined good mom as being there for everyone except making money, and I'm redefining good mom as one who goes and makes some money to provide for her family because she's now a single mom,” he said.

To improve her financial position and support her kids, Ramsey said she has no choice but to get a job working 40 to 50 hours a week making $25 to $30 per hour. “The best thing you can do for you and them is go make a little money right now. You don’t need to go make $300,000 a year, but you do need to go make $50. Right now.” He recommended looking for a job in industries with labor shortages, like delivery driver or retail employee.

Considering how tight the labor market is, it shouldn’t be very hard for Kami to find a job. The U.S. unemployment rate was at 3.7% in November 2023. The average total salary for a delivery driver in Illinois is $31,500 per year, according to Intuit Mint, but the average salary for UPS delivery drivers in the state is higher at $58,000 a year.