Jun 10, 2026
During a time when homeownership feels out of reach, owning a home seems like it would be a green flag when dating. But for some women, that hasn’t been the case.
Single women are buying homes at a record rate. According to the National Association of Realtors (NAR) 2025 survey of homeownership, single women now make up 25% of first-time homebuyers, more than twice the percentage of single men at 10%.
Advertisement
But the Guardian recently highlighted the woes of Tiffany Tate of Winston-Salem, North Carolina and ‘Tonya’ of San Francisco, who both experienced road blocks in dating whenever they mentioned they owned their homes.
Tiffany said one suitor asked her, “If you buy that house, what’s a guy going to do for you?” Then 29, she had just ended a long-term relationship and moved to Charlotte for a new job at a career development center.
“I was like, ‘I don’t understand the question’,” she recalled, admitting she was jarred by the man’s inquiry. “Why would me buying a house be a deterrent for a guy? Wouldn’t that be a positive? He went from seeming really nice to kind of aggressive.”
Some men see female homeowners as a deterrent
Tonya wished to remain anonymous for the article because of the very backlash she received while trying to achieve her goal of homeownership. She moved to the Bay Area in 2021 after accepting a faculty position at the University of California, San Francisco.
She was 36 when she closed on her condo, and what should have been a blessing caused friction in her personal life.
“I feel like it immediately puts men on the defensive, so they start talking about their own finances and what they’re able to do,” she said.
Advertisement
Like anyone saving for a house or large expense there is a lot of penny pinching. That tenacity allowed Mariah Berry of Charleston, Tennessee, to buy her own home in 2023.
Berry started the grind when she and her boyfriend were living in temporary arrangements that included couch surfing. She saved up enough money to put down $7,000 on a ranch-style duplex, selling for $218,000. With that down payment, she secured a 30-year mortgage at 6% interest.
“I do think it’s pretty frickin’ awesome that I’m a homeowner and that I became a homeowner at 23,” she told NBC News. “I will say that after I put in the offer, I wanted to puke. I was like, ’Oh my God, did I do the right thing?’”
This sense of newfound confidence has potentially left men feeling less confident in what they bring to the table. Richard Reeves, president of the American Institute for Boys and Men, says that men are emotionally dependent on women.
Psychologists echo that sentiment, adding the discomfort some men feel around homeowners may stem from more than outdated ideas about who should pay the mortgage. Research suggests men’s fewer social relationships also leave them more reliant on romantic partners for company and support.
Must Read
- You can now build wealth like a landlord for as little as $100 — and no, you don't have to chase down rent or take 3 A.M tenant calls
- Goldman Sachs used to hoard prime real estate deals for the ultrarich. Two ex-analysts just opened the door for $250
- Robert Kiyosaki begs investors not to miss this ‘explosion’ — says this 1 asset will surge 400% in a year
Join 250,000+ readers and get Moneywise’s best stories and exclusive interviews first — clear insights curated and delivered weekly. Subscribe now.
Throwing shade on female homeowners makes little sense
The trend of female homeowners isn’t a niche phenomenon. The aforementioned gap of 25% to 10% is even more pronounced among younger buyers, with single Gen Z women significantly outpacing their male counterparts. Gen Z women accounted for 35% of all homebuyers in their generation, while single Gen Z men represented 18%, according to survey data from the National Association of Realtors.
Advertisement
Los Angeles real estate agent Angela Johnson explained how enthused single women are at the opportunity to buy their own homes.
“We’re seeing a lot of women that are excited about the idea of buying on their own,” she told the Guardian. “They’re really psyched about it.”
Dr. Jennie Young, a professor of rhetoric at University of Wisconsin-Green Bay, suspects the root cause of the issue is the outdated “provider” identity.
“It’s interesting because the same gender group that’s constantly complaining about how women are gold diggers who exploit them for labor and money … It turns out even [men] can’t think of what they bring to the table other than money,” she said.
Faced with high rents, rising home prices and uncertainty about marriage timelines, many women are deciding not to postpone major financial goals while waiting for a potential partner to catch up.
You May Also Like
- Dave Ramsey warns nearly 50% of Americans are making 1 big Social Security mistake — here’s what it is and the simple steps to fix it ASAP
- Thanks to Jeff Bezos, you can now become a landlord for as little as $100 — and no, you don't have to deal with tenants or fix freezers. Here's how
- Millionaires under 43 are reshaping investing — just 25% of their portfolios are in stocks. Here’s where their money is going
- Robert Kiyosaki issues grim warning for baby boomers. Many could be ‘wiped out’ and homeless ‘all over’ the country. How to protect yourself now
Brian Baker is an Associate Editor with Moneywise. He has been a media professional for over 20 years.
