New Jersey man confesses he spent $55K on his ‘nasty habit’ in just 6 weeks — how Dave Ramsey says he can get out of crisis and back on track

James explained that he used to go with friends and bet small sums, but now goes on his own and bets thousands per night. He described "scary" “out-of-body” experiences like he's blacking out, saying he doesn't realize what he's done until he leaves the casino.

Then reality hits. In just six weeks he’d lost $55,000 to gambling

“Basically everything I have,” James said.

While he makes over $100,000 a year as a businessman, he acknowledged that he was worried about the financial implications of what he recognized as a gambling addiction.

Ramsey, who showed compassion to James, agreed with his assessment, saying it’s clear he’s in crisis.

"You're watching yourself do life-destroying things and still do them anyway," Ramsey commented.

James’s struggle is something millions of Americans can relate to, along with the financial impact of gambling. Ramsey offered some advice based on his practical experience over the years providing financial counseling to people with addictions.

Gambling and its many costs

Yale Medicine reports that approximately 3.34 million Americans (around 1% of the population) have a gambling addiction, and that young adults are more likely to engage in gambling than older ones. (2)

Those with a serious gambling addiction are literally throwing money away.

The Gateway Foundation reports that 90% of gambling addicts rely on debt to gamble. Most end up in the hole, with an average $55,000 debt — exactly what James has lost to this point. But he fears he’ll lose much more. (3)

The American Psychological Association warns that the mix of losses and occasional wins set up something called "intermittent reinforcement" in a gambler’s brain, convincing them that each loss puts them closer to a win. (4)

Signs things are getting out of hand? The Louisiana Department of Health says that being secretive, increased time gambling, higher bets, borrowing to gamble and canceling other plans in order to gamble are flags of an addiction. (5)

James is doing well by acknowledging his problem and he wants to beat it.

Here are some options that he can consider on his healing journey.

How to overcome a gambling addiction

Ramsey suggested James do three key things:

1. Join Gamblers' Anonymous, which Ramsey feels is the best program for gambling addictions.
2. Get one-on-one support from a professional counselor or therapist.
3. Build up friendships with people who don't go to casinos — suggesting he find them at a local church.

Ramsey cautioned that if James isn't able to do these things, he needs to make a more dramatic move — and a geographic one, to a place where there are no casinos, like Ramsey’s own city, Nashville.

In addition to Ramsey’s suggestion of joining a support group (e.g., Gamblers’ Anonymous) and taking advantage of local resources (e.g., 1-800-GAMBLER), the American Psychiatric Association recommends reaching out to a trusted friend or family member when feeling the urge to gamble. That can make it easier to wait out the urge.

They also suggest visualizing what will likely happen if you gamble (6).