10. Sandwich shaming
They think it's weird when people struggle with money.
I used to live in New York City, and knew a guy who came from HUGE money who was a trust fund kid and worked in the fashion industry because he loved it. He had an apartment on Park Avenue, had a driver, etc. He was very nice, but clueless about struggle. Every time he'd hear me say something like "Oh yay, another peanut butter sandwich" he'd just tilt his head and say "If you're hungry why don't you just order delivery?" or something. He had NO CLUE about things like having $20 to your name for the next five days.
9. Thinking the poor are the fortunate ones
I was with a group of co-workers and we saw a homeless person sleeping on the sidewalk and this friend just goes and says "It must be nice to have nothing to worry about, just chill and do whatever you want all day."
I though for sure he was joking. He wasn't joking.
8. An imbalance of shower
When they're in shock that I grew up with four people and only one bathroom and shower. SO YOU ALL SHARED ONE SHOWER?
7. Carrying around childhood baggage
When my wife's friend's kids (who were like 6) were appalled that they had to carry their own luggage to their hotel room.
| *Yukonhijack *
6. Having 'people' for everything
To me, the big giveaway is people coming to you, rather than you going to them.
My wife and I make a decent middle class income. We have an accountant, I take my car to a car wash for a wash and wax, my wife gets her nails done, I get a massage every few months, we go to the grocery store, we take our kids to swimming lessons. Normal stuff for people of our income level.
My in-laws fall in to the 1% of income ranges. They do all the same stuff, but someone comes to their house to do it. Their accountant comes to them when it's tax season. My mother-in-law has a regular masseuse who comes to the house every week. A mobile wash and detail service comes to their house and washes and waxes all the cars. During weekdays they have a chef who makes dinner every night and does all their grocery shopping. When my wife's brother was little, the swimming instructor would come to their house to give a private lesson. My father-in-law's company has a hairstylist on the ground floor, primarily for company employees.
5. 'That teeny-tiny toaster?'
I was working my first office job with a similarly young I.T. guy. I bought a toaster for the break room. He asked "Wow...where did you get the mini-toaster?"
"What do you mean 'mini-toaster'?"
"Yknow....only two slots?"
"Wait. You actually think a four-slot toaster is the standard size and this is somehow smaller than normal?"
"Uh, yeah. That is not a normal toaster"
He remained convinced that I was crazy when I old him my family had never in my life owned a four-slice toaster. My husband bought me a four-slicer as a gift to symbolize that we "made it" in life based on this story.
4. When Gucci is your go-to
One of my best friends from high school is super rich and although she and her family are very gracious with their money and have taken me on trips with them, I will never get over their lifestyle. I went on a trip with them once and we went to the Gucci store and they ACTUALLY BOUGHT STUFF THERE. like, a lot of stuff. I was absolutely stunned. I just sat there the whole time not even wanting to look at the price of anything. My family can't even afford to fix random things around the house, and her Gucci shopping spree could have paid for all of those repairs and more.
3. When poverty is a vacation
People who travel to impoverished areas for a vacation and then act super self-congratulatory about what they saw. It's a dead giveaway someone comes from money when they have to pay to have a humbling experience in their life.
2. Being extravagantly cheap
People who have come from, and lived with money all their lives will be weirdly cheap about some things, and willing to spend money on other arbitrary things.
This dude will drop $400 per person on a dinner with fancy food, wine, and tea. But when choosing his car, it's an old beater that he's had for 20 years. He'll spend money to have me come visit, because he knows I can't afford the airfare. But then when I arrive, he'll drive the 1 1/2 hours to the airport to come get me, rather than spend an extra $100 to get me to an airport closer to his house. ...
Will drop $200 on drinks at the nightclub. Will only buy cheap vodka for at home drinking. Will spend $500 on wine from a winery. Will go to the local store, and only buy Yellowtail.
I started to realise that for the most part, wealthy people are more about experiences than the actual cost. Then, when the experience isn't that important, will try to cheap out HARD.
1. Just not getting it
The things they may consider "empathy" don't really connect.
I drove limos part time, after my full time job, at night to help buy diapers and food. I was rarely home at night on weekends, I drove almost every Friday and Saturday from 9 p.m. to 5 a.m., and would get home by 6 a.m.
One night, I was driving a full limo around the city doing after bar drop off. One guy was talking to me thru the privacy window hole, and we talked about why I was always driving. Bottom line, I was making sure my son and wife had food every day.
He told me he felt my pain, as he was having problems paying for his vacation homes in Florida and Texas lately.
Yeah, bro. We're totally on the same wavelength. That was the closest he could come to understanding. I worked an extra 20-30 hours a week to buy diapers and chicken, he had to make sure he had two vacation homes.